How does one feel confident enough to say ‘I’m accomplished'?

Re: Bita T: Everyone has their own definition of accomplishment, so first, you need to find yours. Set goals for yourself. Just this morning I read in an article: "purpose will give you security", and it's totally true. How can you acknowledge and honor that you've accomplished something if you don't know what you were aiming to accomplish in the first place? Review your values and priorities always ensure you're keeping them in line above all else. Be patient. Once you've set a goal, all that's left is to accomplish it.  ​

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Re: James G: Anyone can say ‘I’m accomplished’, but it’s another story to believe your successes as enough to confidently respond to the question, ‘so what have you done? The root of the issue lies in being consistently unsatisfied with what you’ve achieved in the past. Until you can acknowledge your successes as being a product of the best you could do at that time, you will struggle to present yourself as being adequate by the standards of from whomever you are seeking validation. On the flip side, acknowledging your failures as being representative only of the particular moment in time in which you failed is equally important. The constant inner need to meet a benchmark (set by a force in your life, or by your own self) sabotages the confidence it takes to believe you are accomplished. Remove that benchmark by knowing what you’ve achieved as being enough. You do not need to feel as though you missed the mark to such a degree that your achievements are not worthy of being listed in the canon of your successful history. Ask yourself why receiving praise or being awarded for your hard work (an expression of your skill level at that time) is not enough to fuel your confidence. If you are struggling to look for evidence, this could manifest as clients purchasing your products, receiving a formal award, or even having privately felt proud for meeting a personal goal. If you are looking to others to validate your accomplishments, after all, what about the congratulations received from them (or, from yourself) is not enough? Your talents, skillsets, and hard work have stunned, inspired and satisfied in the past – tell the world, what have you done?